ABG, Asian Baby Girls/Gangsters — I’ve never been a fan of the term or some of the personalities associated with it but, after watching Crazy Rich Asians, I have newfound respect. If you’re not familiar with ABG, do a quick Google search, one picture will make sense.
ABG’s always look their absolute best; they bring their A-game. But, most importantly, they attract the same energy they expel both in personality and appearance. And that taught me something very valuable!
If you want to attract a certain type of person, you have to embody what you want in your personality and appearance.
I’ve always been a firm believer to never judge a book by it’s cover. Everyone has the potential to be their best! However, after my last relationship, I realized, although someone may have potential, they might not actualize that potential. But, those who do actualize their potential carry themselves in a particular manner that reflects their hard work.
If you want someone with actualized potential, you have to find the person who embodies that potential. It shows they are actively working to be their best every day!
I’ve never been a high-maintenance woman, but I do have certain expectations that I think are reasonable. And although I’m not looking for a snobby, rich dude from uptown Toronto, I expect someone to conduct and present themselves with a (reasonable amount) of pride. So to attract that person, I must look the part myself. That isn’t to say I present myself poorly. However, in previous years, I lacked confidence in my body. And unfortunately, it still shows in my body language, even though I’ve gained a lot more confidence since then.
Self-awareness is key to making significant changes to one's life. If you’re aware that your body language suffered from low self-esteem, you can actively change your mental state and physical state. Akin to your mind, once your body is conditioned to a habit, it takes time, patience, and practice to break that habit. It could be how you walk, eat, dress, or introduce yourself. All these things require practice and patience to change.
In my early 20s, I was confident in my personality, but I wasn’t confident in my body. I felt undesirable, and it didn’t help that “slim-thick” was the hottest trend. So although my heart was in a good place, the people I attracted took advantage of my low-esteem. They sensed my displeasure with my body and used that to manipulate my mind. My ex was a decent person but didn’t take good care of his body. It was a fight to get him to eat well, sleep well, exercise, or visit a doctor. Looking back, I was the same! I didn’t care for my body, and I attracted that same energy into my life.
You don’t have to buy the latest fashion or botch your face or even load up on makeup. But, remember the ABG, she’s a gangster worth respecting. She know what she wants, and she embodies it from her head to her feet. Embody all of your potential and show-off your amazingness!
